Saturday, December 5, 2009

not so fast

i finally gave in and let m have a second nap at 3:30 after his 20-minute nap from 11:30-11:50.

Well, I don't know about this one nap thing. The boys are clearly not ready for it. I'd show you the pictures and video I took during our extremely LONG and WHINY day yesterday, but the tears and snot would probably gross you out, and the whining in the video might just split your eardrums. I'd probably lose my entire readership in one post.

too tired to even eat lunch at 11am, we resorted to bottles with some rice cereal added to fill up hungry, sleepy tummies.

So, yeah. Today we're back to two naps. The little guys were so exhausted from the change, which was expressed by Max in his verbal/emotional way (i.e. lots of crying and whining) and by Shoghi in his physical/kinetic way (i.e. lots of biting). I guess for now I'm just going to have to find a peaceful place in my heart about not having any time by myself during the day. I think it must be in there, but it's very, very small. I need time alone - I needed it before having children, and even more so now that I'm using every neural connection to try to succeed at finding my way in this phase of my life. In short order, I'm going to have to get brave and accept some of the childcare help that's been offered... if you and I are friends on facebook, you no doubt know what I mean, since most of my chatter about this subject gets directed there.

What that means is that Bamboo Village is taking over the downstairs. All kinds of things find their way into the boys' hands. Prototypes of new designs for the spring are lying in various states of production, and all flat surfaces seem to be gathering more and more layers of items to be packed, made into final products, photographed or put away. It's kind of crazy, but with the boys at my feet all day, what else can I do?

a ruler's not dangerous, right?
that was yesterday... just look at those tired eyes!

max today with his smart new haircut - behind him you can see one of my double happiness fish towels

Today I had to take the boys to get yet another haircut. All the food in the long hair is pretty gross. Turns out, today is exactly a month since their first haircuts. Max's hair is so thin, it probably won't need a trim for a while, but I had them cut Shoghi's hair extra short, since it grows so very fast.

To be honest, even though S looks adorable with his new do, I'm not so crazy about this truly boyish style. It just seems so tough somehow... too hard? Too mature? I don't know... for some reason, it brought forward a lot of thoughts and fears about having a rough and tumble boy... I am having such a hard time teaching Shoghi to be gentle - Max currently has three nasty bruises from Shoghi biting him. It'll grow on me, I know... there was just a little shock seeing him look so different today!


  1. They are really adorable. There is something incredible about boys and their (frequent) haircuts... makes them seem to grow fast(er) sometimes!

  2. I'm sorry you are having such a rough time. Do you still need a table for work? I have a folding table (6 ft I think) that I used for sewing that you could borrow. Just let me know. :)

  3. love you all and sending peaceful vibes your way. You may be in that phase of some days 1 and some days 2 naps. glad to hear you are going to get help with the boys. That time will be dedicated and you will get more done.

  4. Nap time advice/schedule

    This worked for me
    breakfast at 7:30
    snack at 9:00
    lunch at 11:00
    nap at 12:00 to 2:00 or 3:00
    snack at 3:00 or 3:30
    dinner 6:00 bed time 8:00
    If you stay firm and consistent in a week they will have it down and a=everyone will be happier
    This schedule is the one my daycare uses and gave me when my son was 14 months and I was having the same issues. It worked and until he turned 13 in September he went to bed at 8:00 and I had the late evening to myself. Try it for a week or 2 and see how it goes. I hope it helps.

  5. That pic of Max asleep is adorable! And you're right about Shoghi's haircut - wow. He does look very grown up. Jackson is also very physical and he beats up on his sister a little bit sometimes. He doesn't mean to hurt but he's just rough.

    I know what you mean about the whining! God, it can get SO annoying. We're also trying to lessen binky use and that's leading to even more whining.

    I think it's a fine decision to play it by ear for a while with the naps. You're the one who convinced me not to go to one nap yet! :-) Today we had two but the second one was a bust and they were crabby afterwards. Seems like this is one of the phases where they need more attention/babying...

    Hang in there!

  6. i just put mine down as a reflex. no set time that i'm aware of. girly sleeps minimally and little boy sleeps more predictably....but from my previous children i know i'm WAAAY more stressed when i try and make a routine that they won't fit into, so we just wing it thesedays ,P


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